Have you ever said: “I’m done?” We have!
Too many of us extend love based on our tolerance of one’s behavior as opposed to the true depth to the meaning of love.
Sure we love food; we love our friends and family to an extent. Until our taste buds change or someone rubs us the wrong way.
We say, “I love you” almost as loosely as we are willing to leave pennies on the ground, or as quickly as we are to throw trash away.
We love with the flow of the wind, breezy one day, a storm the next or all of a sudden, there is peace because the wind is still. Well, in reality more like our love comes to a halt because we just simply fell out of love.
There was a time when the pressures of our life created an atmosphere of sarcasm and rudeness in our home, even among our children. So we decided to implement a 30-day love challenge. Our challenge was to read 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 in any Bible version every day for 30 days. Each person chose whatever version spoke to them; the point was to meditate on it until it became what we “do.”
In our 30-day love challenge, we found that The Message version spoke to us in an audible way that changed our love walk in every relationship.
In fact, this has become one of our first assignments for marriage counseling. Challenging every couple to read 1 Corinthians 13 for 30 days and watch how it changes their love walk with each other and other people.
If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr,but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere.So, no matter what I say, what I believe,and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut. Doesn’t have a swelled head. Doesn’t force itself on others. Isn’t always “me first.” Doesn’t fly off the handle. Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others. Doesn’t revel when others grovel. Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth. Puts up with anything, trusts God always. Always looks for the best. Never looks back. But keeps going to the end. Love never dies.
Nowhere in this verse do you read the phrase; “I’m done.” On the contrary, it states: love doesn’t keep score of the sins of others. This means we don’t count the times others have done us wrong and then place a time frame on our love for them.
Love does not act unbecoming, that means we cannot act outside of character to each other whether we feel it is justified or not. This means, that we may not trust the person but we always, trust God; and choose to be kind always.
Please don’t misunderstand us, there are times when making a change in a relationship is necessary. However, even in those circumstances, we must choose to close those relationships with the heart of love. Love always, always, wins.
We encourage anyone who finds themselves struggling in this area to take the 30-day love challenge. We promise you; it will change your heart, your actions, and your love for others. When we choose to love in every circumstance, love will always prevail because love never fails.
PS. For couples who are serious about taking their love walk to another level; consider reading The Five Love Languages, available by clicking the link below.
~André and Timberley Gray
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