Do you find yourself in a place where you don’t trust people, you don’t trust your spouse or more importantly you don’t trust God?
Trust is a very sacred, and often times it’s broken. However, it can lead to the most invigorating healing and restoration if you allow it.
We recognize there are various degrees of trust. One may have lost trust in a spouse who committed infidelity. One may have shared a sensitive matter to a friend who later went on to tell someone else. Or, you believed God for a certain thing, and because your prayer went unanswered, you have lost trust in God.
All of these are valid reasons for losing one’s trust. By all means, it should be dealt with, and not swept under the rug. We too have dealt with trust issues in various degrees: with our children, close family and friends, and in a few times in our relationship.
There was a time in our marriage where we didn’t honor the priorities of God. We were seeking to please God, then trying to please family and friends outside of our home, before our marriage. So much so we would share details of our marriage without discussing it with each other. Or, we would give / loan money behind each other’s back. That was at the time when our marriage came to a head, and we sought help.
Not only did we come to grips with understanding the priorities of God. We had to rebuild our trust for one another and set boundaries. Was it an easy process that changed our marriage in 24 hours? NO! It took: time, prayer, forgiveness, communication, love, and most importantly it took trust.
We had to decide that this marriage is our number priority right after God. And the only way that was going to happen was to find out what God’s Word says about it and then do it!
As we meditated on God’s Word, we began to understand His order of priorities, and then we chose to implement them in our home. As we did this, we started to see true change. Change in our relationships with God, change in our marriage, with our children, even in our business. And in the midst of all of that, we discovered our spiritual gifts and started to serve in ministry.
Many times, we think one thing isn’t connected to the other. However, to our surprise, our obedience and trust in God effects every area of our life. Please don’t misunderstand us, when trust is broken, it will take more than just reading the Word. It requires true repentance, forgiveness, and the courage to move forward.
We chose to meditate on the love chapter, 1 Corinthians 13. In the message version, it says that love “trusts God always.” Now the fact may be that we may not trust a person; but the truth is that we trust God, and we find great peace because we know God will protect us.
Knowing this and walking it out are two different things. Therefore, we want to encourage you to do this one thing. When you decide to forgive, you must re-frame from bringing it up in the future. Otherwise, that person will begin to resent that they even told you. Not to mention, if you think, they are doing something they’re not, they will consider doing it anyway since you don’t believe them.
By constantly bringing up an old hurt, or the past, it will only bring condemnation to that person. As a result, it will hinder the relationship from being able to heal and grow.
Condemnation doesn’t change a person, conviction does. And when you choose to walk it out in love and trust completely in God, the Holy Spirit will bring the conviction for true change.
God did not created us to do life alone. No! He created us for relationships.
If trust has been broken in your relationship, and you want to move forward, we encourage you to seek God. Purpose to seek true repentance, and purpose to walk in love. Then make a commitment to trust God completely until your trust has been restored.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart,And lean not on your own understanding;
6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”
~ Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV)
~ André and Timberley Gray