How many would like to receive a two night stay in a hotel that includes breakfast, dinner, and a massage for 2? We would, in fact, we did and what happened when we checked in was…let’s just say embarrassing!
For one of our anniversary gifts, one of our dear friends wanted to bless us with a few days away from the kids, have some alone time together and enjoy a massage. Not only was this necessary for us during the season we were in, but it was great time to go over our needs list for each other to help keep the fire flaming in our marriage.
(We wrote about that needs list in a blog we wrote: What Turns Your Spouse On?)
Any ways, my oldest sister Tamar offered to keep our kids so there weren’t any excuses for us not to take this time together. We were all set; overnight bag packed, kids taken care of, and the hotel bill covered.
As we valet our car, we were getting more excited and anxious to get our weekend started. We walked up to the check-in counter, gave our name, confirmation number, and we were good to go!
Well, until they asked for a credit card to hold a deposit for incidentals. We told them we wouldn’t need any incidentals, but they stated that it was their policy to have a card on deposit. As an alternative, they suggested that we could use our debit card. The only problem with that was that we didn’t have the amount they wanted to hold for a deposit in our account.
To add insult to misery, there was a line starting to form behind us, and there we were sitting in the lobby with our bags trying to decide what to do. So I did what anyone would do in that situation, and call their older sister.
I called Tamar and said: “Girl, you are not going to believe this! We are sitting here in the lobby, and they need a credit card.” Being the best sister that she is, she said: “Girl no problem, give them ours.”
Just when things looked like they are starting to get better, they tell us that my sister would need to complete an authorization form in person or by fax. With modern technology, my sister didn’t have a fax machine, only a computer with the ability to scan and email. And of course the hotel wouldn’t accept an email.
I have to admit, this was enough to say, forget it. However, as I sat with my sister on the phone, she suggested we go to my husband’s office to receive the form from them by email and then take it back to the hotel. I asked her how are we supposed to go back to valet and get our car when we just got here, because this was so embarrassing. Tamar sat in silence for a moment then said: “the same way you walked in there. This is how we roll. We do what we got to do. Don’t let the enemy steal the time God has given the two of you. Now call me when you get there.” “Click.” That was her hanging up.
If you know my sister, you would know that is how she is. She tells it like it is, whether you like it or not. I think she thrives on being the older sister, but it’s o.k. because at that moment, that was exactly what we needed to hear.
Any ways, off Andre and I went; we grabbed our bags, went to the valet to get our car, drove to the office, received the email from my sister and went back to the hotel. We valet with the same valet attendant and this time when walked in the hotel, we walked in with a little more pep in our step.
The time in the car gave us time to thank God for what He was doing in us and through this situation despite what it looked like. The enemy tried really hard to steal our joy, rob us of our alone time and attempted to amplify our current situation. But, Romans 8:28 (NKJV) says, “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”
Andre and I successfully checked in, went to our room and got ready for our couple’s massage. It was the best weekend we had to connect, and reflect on God’s goodness.
From the outside, it might have looked like one of the most embarrassing times in our lives. Despite the rocky start, that weekend was a turning point for a deeper level of intimacy in our faith, with each other as we went through our spouse needs list that we encourage every couple to consider (access needs list by clicking here).Just look at what we would have missed out on, if we gave into the challenges, the enemy tried to put before us.
Our struggles don’t define us, how we respond to them does. The choice is yours; you can give into your circumstances, or you can overcome them and experience God’s best in every area of your life!
~ Timberley Gray