When was the last time you kissed your spouse? No, we mean really kissed your spouse, with your mouth opened. Yes, we said it, open that mouth and kiss your spouse!
A couple of weeks ago, we were listening to a live periscope of some great friends of ours, Lyndan and Vanessa, who host a marriage podcast, He’s the DJ, She’s the Rapper. In this particular periscope we were listening to, they were giving couples “love assignments” for the week. Well, in their words exactly, they were talking about sex after dark!
Anyway, one of the assignments given was to kiss your spouse for seven seconds. We’re always down for learning new ways to keep our intimacy fresh and exciting, so we thought, let’s try it. In our experimenting, we realized you cannot kiss your spouse for seven seconds with just a peck.
Well, some of you could but that would be very boring. Think about it, when you kiss your children, your parents, or your siblings, you give them a good ol’ peck on the cheek. That’s appropriate and sows love and affection to your family. However, your spouse is not your child, not your parent, and not your sibling.
Therefore, your kisses shouldn’t be the same as what you’re giving everyone else. We know what you’re thinking: “Hey we live busy lives. My kisses might be quick, but they get the point. They know I love them, and we’ll connect later.” Any of that sound familiar? And we all know, most married couples don’t connect later. (Which will be another blog at another time.) So what does that peck really say to your spouse?
The book: Song of Solomon in the Bible, is really the greatest love story ever written. And if you haven’t read it, we would encourage both husbands and wives to read it in a translation that speaks to you. In the meantime, let’s take our kissing instructions from the Bible!
“Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine.”
Song of Solomon 1:2 (NLT)
The bottom line is that kissing your spouse passionately opens the door to greater intimacy. And don’t let the kids be your excuse. Yes, it’s ok if the kids see you. Now for those who need more instruction…you don’t have to have a complete make-out session. But trust us, these days, children see public display of affection everywhere, so why not let them see the example at home?
Not to mention, an added benefit to kissing your spouse, going or coming from the home with an opened mouth kiss, sets the stage for more open mouth kissing in the bedroom. Many times, couples struggle in the bedroom. And, those struggles can be eliminated if we treat our spouses with care, regard, affection, and emotional connection during the day!
Test this and see it for yourself. Purpose this week to kiss your spouse with your mouth opened during the day and take note to what happens in the bedroom!
By the way, Lyndan and Vanessa will be our special guest bloggers next week, with another great marriage tip!
~ André and Timberley Gray