Have you stood in a room with over a 100 people and still felt alone? Ever wondered why on earth, we were created to walk this journey of life? With all the turmoil in this world, why are we even here?
I remember when I was a single mom raising my son Brandon before meeting Andre, I felt so alone. When I tried to express my mental state to others, they would ask how can you feel alone when you have a son? If any of you who are single, or even married and don’t have what I call “real friends” you know exactly what I mean.
Christmas was great for Brandon, but lonesome for me; even going to church felt lonely. Funny enough after meeting Andre, getting married, and having our daughter Trinity, I still felt alone trying to succeed as a wife, mother, and child of God. I was so wrapped up in my unhappiness that I wasn’t an effective participant in the kingdom of God. I mean who wanted to serve at church and putting on a fake smile, when deep down, inside, they’re not happy.
Often times the troubles of life cause us to seclude ourselves from others, and we think we can handle life by ourselves. Consequently, that leads to destruction, depression and doubt of our very own existence.
After getting tired of feeling that way, I petitioned God to send me a friend, a mentor, a godly woman to help in my Christian walk. Not only did I pray, but I choose to participate in a women’s bible study even though I didn’t “feel” like it. And it was in that process of surrendering; God answered my prayer.
I was very grateful to have a woman of God, Lorri Conover, who reached out to me and walked beside me as a sister in Christ to encourage my role as a wife, a mother, and a friend. That relationship affected my everyday life, and helped shaped my future to walk in the purpose God had for me. If it wasn’t for her taking the time to help me recognize I was important to God and to the body of Christ, I would have continued to walk down the path of separation with an empty life that gave me no hope.
If you read our book, Embracing God’s Priorities, you may remember that Lorri and her husband Ed were our mentors before they both went home to be with the Lord. They taught us the very principles of God’s Priorities. Just think if they had not sown into us, this blog would not even exist today!
Being in relationship with others helps prevent the sense of loneliness and uselessness. However, it’s important to be in relationship with the right people. People who will hold you accountable to the standards of God, and not judge you in the process.
We are told repeatedly in the New Testament to love God with all our heart and mind and to love people (Matthew 22:37, Luke 10:27, Mark 12:30-31, John 13:34-35). Meaning, our relationship to God, and each other is the key to a happy, joyful life, and pleasing to God.
While our time on earth is but for a moment, let’s purpose to make the most of it through our relationships with each other. We were created to worship God, to be in fellowship with Him and one another.
You may be feeling down, lost, broken and maybe even broke. Nevertheless, when you choose to do life “together” with God, friends, family and the body of Christ, you will discover that you have a purpose, and that you have all you need.
~ Timberley Gray