Tired of looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right? Have you considered turning your dating over to God?
God’s word tells us to come to Him, all those who are heavy burden (Matthew 11:28). So why not turn your dating over to God?
Making God Your Priority While Single
While we focus on the priorities of God: God, Spouse, Family, Ministry, and Work, we recognize many of our readers are single, or divorced; in search for Mr. or Mrs. Right to build or rebuild their family. Therefore, we thought we would write a blog to help our single friends.
By keeping God’s priorities your priority while you are single, it will make it that much easier to keep Mr. or Mrs. Right in their place respectively without neglecting the priorities of God.
There are so many ways to find a date today than ever before. You have the old-school way, where your friends hook you up; you have the personal ads in the good old newspaper, the Internet, Internet chat rooms, dating websites, Facebook, Craigslist and the list goes on, on and on.
In earlier times, courtship was the norm rather than dating. Courtship included strict supervision and protection of the daughter.
Unfortunately, as a society we have come so far away from that.
5 Guidelines For Dating
Dating, in line with God’s Word, is a crucial processes you will go through that will potentially lead you to the most important investment of your life, which is marriage.
The Bible doesn’t specifically address the topic of dating. However it does give us insight into what we should be looking for in a person we are trying to pursue.
So here are some suggestions we came up with that may help you.
1. God comes first in everything.
We serve a jealous God. (Gal 5:20, Colossians 3:5) If you make the person you are dating your priority, you are bound to be disappointed. Even in marriage, you must love God and prioritize your time with God above your spouse.
2. God instructs us to pray about everything.
Make a list of the type of person you desire to date and pray for the desire of your heart. We are told in Philippians 4:6 to pray about everything. We serve a God of specifics. Men: God gave us a hint: We should be looking for a Prov. 31 Woman. Women: Look for a man who will love you like Christ loves the church. (Eph 5:25)
3. He instructed us to not be unequally yoke.
Let God choose your mate. It will take the pressure off of you by resolving the search to Him. By doing this you will avoid the temptation of being unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14).
4. God gives us instructions to live a life of good character.
If you purpose to live a life of good character, that should be a trait you are seeking in someone you want to date (Proverbs 22:1). Not someone who is most popular, the best looking, or the best athlete.
5. Stay Pure
Make your purity, your priority and reserve physical passion for marriage (Ephesians 5:3).
In The End
When looking at these five suggestions, you may be thinking this doesn’t seem realistic. But believe us, it is. When we met almost 18 years ago, Timberley had a list of what she wanted in her future husband. It was her barometer of expectations based on God’s Word and things that were important to her.
At that time, she was a single mother, and her list of expectations made all the difference in who she would date. Fortunately for me, I met her standard, and won her heart. In reality, she won me over. And that is the reason, I gave my life to Christ.
God is the Creator. He is the architect of dating and marriage. Why depend on a dating personality profile, when God knows what it takes to find the love of your life?
When we turn our search over to God, He will then bring that special someone you can’t live without.
~André Gray
I have been practicing this for years. Its easier said than done, for some. I am stronger than most, however I long for a good role model for my sons, as well as, a mate that is for me & not using me.
I’m in the same position as you except I have daughters. And I too feel they deserve to have a male’s point of view in their lives instead of just me, a woman who’s heart hurts and who’s responsibilities are so heavy.
Amen Mahogany, as parents we must choose to be the example for our children. Continue to fight the good fight of faith and know that God will send you the right person, at the right time.
I just prayed this tonight and bam confirmation. But I have already been praying this for a while now because I trust God in everything. He knows best for His children amen
Praise God for confirmation Nzinga.
It takes discipline, it’s not difficult to do if you have activities. Plays, concerts, volunteer, exercise, etc. Intimate should be in a quiet public place with pleasant conversation. Dating is the foreplay to marriage.
Amen Amber, love your line…Dating is the foreplay to marriage. Boundaries such as: activities, double dates, etc. are all great ways to help us date while honoring God. Blessings~
Why? It does not really matter!! You can be kept for eight to ten years and give your best and still not received the just honor you deserve. I have done because of my love for God….5 or less out 43 years is pretty good.. Does is really matter
Trusting Gods timing… all things are possible through Christ who strengthens me.
God’s timing is perfect Stacey. He is writing the greatest love story for you so just wait on Him. ~Blessings
That is absolutely right. Stacey..Trust God’s timing. When the the is right he will bless Me with a God fearing friend and God fearing Husband.. !Amen
Just tonight I’m readinding this article and Lord I pray you know what’s best for me , guide me and lead mRNA and Lord please remove anyone from my life that is nit of you and for me ..
Bless you Kharolyn for being so transparent with God. He knows your heart and He will bring the right person for you at the right time. ~ Blessings
I have done this for the past 13 yrs and it is so hard now. I always wanted to make sure I had a man of God who wanted me for me and loved God.
Most of my friends are now married and on their third child by now so I do feel very isolated.
I don’t have kids and am now in my thirties. What do you do when you just feel forgotten about?
Lisa, we can only imagine the frustration you feel. As you continue to do what you know is honorable before God, He will reward you in due time. God is preparing the right person just for you! It can be challenging to see others flourish around you but find peace in knowing that what God is true to His word that He will never leave you nor forsake you. You are not forgotten you are being prepared, and the right person is being prepared for you.
~Blessings
I felt as though I was waiting on God, and realized one day that it is Him who is actually waiting on me. So, I have hindered my blessings because I’ve been trying to do it by myself, forgetting that God is the author and finisher of my fate.
What a powerful statement Cynthis and so true. Blessings, peace, and understanding comes when we wait on Him. Now that you are aware of this, everything you’ve been questioning will become clearer. We pray that God will continue to show Himself to you while you wait on Him. ~ Blessings
Greetings!!!
Thank you for this blog post, I sent it to a few ladies who are seeking God and waiting. I know and maybe you do as well, a woman or man, who never married or had children. I can think of one in particular who worked in the community, and served God in all her endeavors. But, what advice do you give them? They want it, but God has NOT, prepared a man or woman of God for them. They may never get married, because that is God’s will.
Thank you for sharing this post Erika. And what a great question. We have a friend who is in the same situation and she told us that if God does not bring her a man she is ok with that. She would rather wait for the right person than to settle. Not sure if that’s the answer you’re looking for. ~ Blessings