Tired of looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right? Have you considered turning your dating over to God?
God’s word tells us to come to Him, all those who are heavy burden (Matthew 11:28). So why not turn your dating over to God?
Making God Your Priority While Single
While we focus on the priorities of God: God, Spouse, Family, Ministry, and Work, we recognize many of our readers are single, or divorced; in search for Mr. or Mrs. Right to build or rebuild their family. Therefore, we thought we would write a blog to help our single friends.
By keeping God’s priorities your priority while you are single, it will make it that much easier to keep Mr. or Mrs. Right in their place respectively without neglecting the priorities of God.
There are so many ways to find a date today than ever before. You have the old-school way, where your friends hook you up; you have the personal ads in the good old newspaper, the Internet, Internet chat rooms, dating websites, Facebook, Craigslist and the list goes on, on and on.
In earlier times, courtship was the norm rather than dating. Courtship included strict supervision and protection of the daughter.
Unfortunately, as a society we have come so far away from that.
5 Guidelines For Dating
Dating, in line with God’s Word, is a crucial processes you will go through that will potentially lead you to the most important investment of your life, which is marriage.
The Bible doesn’t specifically address the topic of dating. However it does give us insight into what we should be looking for in a person we are trying to pursue.
So here are some suggestions we came up with that may help you.
1. God comes first in everything.
We serve a jealous God. (Gal 5:20, Colossians 3:5) If you make the person you are dating your priority, you are bound to be disappointed. Even in marriage, you must love God and prioritize your time with God above your spouse.
2. God instructs us to pray about everything.
Make a list of the type of person you desire to date and pray for the desire of your heart. We are told in Philippians 4:6 to pray about everything. We serve a God of specifics. Men: God gave us a hint: We should be looking for a Prov. 31 Woman. Women: Look for a man who will love you like Christ loves the church. (Eph 5:25)
3. He instructed us to not be unequally yoke.
Let God choose your mate. It will take the pressure off of you by resolving the search to Him. By doing this you will avoid the temptation of being unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14).
4. God gives us instructions to live a life of good character.
If you purpose to live a life of good character, that should be a trait you are seeking in someone you want to date (Proverbs 22:1). Not someone who is most popular, the best looking, or the best athlete.
5. Stay Pure
Make your purity, your priority and reserve physical passion for marriage (Ephesians 5:3).
In The End
When looking at these five suggestions, you may be thinking this doesn’t seem realistic. But believe us, it is. When we met almost 18 years ago, Timberley had a list of what she wanted in her future husband. It was her barometer of expectations based on God’s Word and things that were important to her.
At that time, she was a single mother, and her list of expectations made all the difference in who she would date. Fortunately for me, I met her standard, and won her heart. In reality, she won me over. And that is the reason, I gave my life to Christ.
God is the Creator. He is the architect of dating and marriage. Why depend on a dating personality profile, when God knows what it takes to find the love of your life?
When we turn our search over to God, He will then bring that special someone you can’t live without.