It doesn’t matter if you’re the wealthiest couple in America or the most needed. It doesn’t matter if you’re happily married or considering a divorce. Stress is inevitable. So how do you manage stress in your marriage?
It’s crazy to think that stress can be powerful enough to turn hair grey. Stress can also cause people to contemplate suicide and some actually do. And ultimately, stress can ruin a marriage if you let it.
We’ve been through plenty of stress in our marriage, and it’s not over. And although we know there will always be a measure of stress, we put together five things you can do to help you not go crazy from stress!
5 Ways To Manage Stress In Your Marriage
1. Do Not Fall For The “Everything Is Perfect” Couple.
So many people seem to have the perfect relationship when you see their Facebook post and photos. Their silly banter gives you the feeling of “why can’t I have that?”
Well rest assured, they have problems too. Maybe different problems as you, but they do. They have stress no matter how perfect their social media depicts their lives. So don’t compare your behind the scenes, to everyone else’s high light reels!
2. Choose To Have SEX Anyway.
Most couples think sex is last on the list. That sex is something you do when all of your ducks are in a row, and you have some time left over at the end of the day. No. Just do it! Sex helps relieve stress, and it feels good. Your marriage needs that intimacy. Believe it or not, without it, you may actually cause additional, unnecessary stress.
3. Realize That Hard Times Make You Stronger.
Yes, this sounds like a cliché, but, it’s so true! Our marriage has been through Hell and back, and we are stronger because of it. Little things (that ten years ago would have stressed us out), are things that we laugh at now. We’ve been through too much to flip out if we get a pink colored bill. (For those that don’t know, pink typically means that you are on the verge of disconnection.) We are much more confident in “US” now, then we’ve ever been. And that’s because of the journey. So keep your head up!
We know you’re probably sitting there thinking, “No. We don’t want to hear that!” Well, it’s true. Exercise will relieve a ton of stress. There were many times we would get so into our workouts that we would forget about our worries. In fact, it has been medically proven in which the Huffington Post published an article that stated:”Exercise and other physical activity produce endorphin-chemicals in the brain that act as natural painkillers and also improve the ability to sleep, which in turn reduces stress.”
5. Have A Plan That You Both Agree On.
Sometimes in the midst of the storm, you forget how important it is to have a plan. When you go on vacation, you don’t just show up at the airport and try to find a flight, then hotel and hope that it’s going to work itself out, right? That would be the most stressful “vacation” ever! Same thing applies to stress in your Marriage. Don’t think it’s all just going to work out. It may, but why take the chance. Sit down together and work on a plan to get yourselves out of this mess of stress.
PRAY: Pray daily, pray with each other and pray alone. Don’t just ask and hope. Pray with action! Pray and apply!
Don’t let stress hinder your marriage. God created the marriage to be a covenant of love, unity, intimacy and fun. What will you do to interrupt the stress in your marriage?
Guest Bio: Lyndan and Vanessa are the hosts of the marriage podcast: “He’s The DJ She’s The Rapper.” After being married for 25 years as high school sweethearts, they went from surviving teenage pregnancy, welfare, earning a 6-figure income, then losing everything and almost divorcing, to running a business together and a marriage stronger than ever. Their goal is to teach other couples to thrive in their marriage by sharing their mistakes and successes.